Don’t get me wrong – I’m looking forward to having a grandchild. But it took some time to get used to the idea. One Sunday afternoon in November, the computer began to flash with a Skype call. My son’s face appeared, shining and optimistic in the Californian sun. He cut to the chase as quickly as possible. ‘We’ve got some news for you… L’s pregnant’. What could I say? I whooped. I laughed. I clapped. He just grinned, happy as I’d ever seen him: proud, pleased, happy.
He told me they’d been fairly sure for a couple of days, and the doctor had just confirmed the news. They couldn’t wait to tell their own parents - they’d just told L’s mum and dad. It was very early days, so they wouldn’t be telling anyone else just yet.
Then we ended the call and I took a deep breath, and thought – crikey.
Hi Juliet,
ReplyDeleteCongratulations again. I can't offer you any sensible advice about being a grandma but I am sure that you will get it into your stride immediately. After the elation of being pregnant, I remember feeling nervous about dropping the baby or doing something equally stupid. One week after the birth I realised that it wasn't even possible to do something so daft. I know it is not the same but I'm sure you will instinctively know what to do and when to do it (if the parents let you!!).
It's strange to think of you as a grandma - you just don't fit the profile!
Maureen
well I'm tearful just reading this....
ReplyDeleteI remember meeting you by chance in topshop back in 1980-something and shrieking "wow - you're pregnant!" Not very supportive!
Crikey, indeed, my lovely! It makes you stop and think, doesn't it!
ReplyDeleteWhen Sam announced they were expecting their first, I think I went into shock and disbelief for some weeks. It wasn't that I didn't think it was on the cards, nor that I didn't like the idea of them having a baby. It was the fact that it made me "step up a generation", so to speak. Which I found pretty daunting.
And I know what you mean about different as well. Whilst my lot are definitely geographically in easy visiting distance.... it's a very different life that they have chosen. I think I'd sort of got as far as taking that bit on board - but somehow the whole baby thing moved it into reality for me.
I couldn't quite believe it, and was overwhelmed when they asked me to be present at the birth (for both of the children).
I have to say that despite my mixed feelings about it all - as soon as I clapped eyes on Ubi - that was all over, and I was totally in love!
I hope that grandmotherdom will bring you as much joy. It's a right old how d'you do! You will be wonderful I know - because you are. XXXXXXXXXXXXX